relationship move forward in 2 different ways. both start with attraction. lots of different things attract or turn us on, a look, a gesture, the sound of a voice. where the relationship goes from there is up to us. the selfish lust route usually starts with infatuation, which feels like real love but is mearly a flash in the pan. these obsessions usually burn out quickly. before long, we start looking for our next flame. the material stage is when you get physical because it feels good and seems like the logical next step in the relationship. you say it's love but it's really lust. breakup is what inevitably happens when the relationship is based primarily on the physical.

if you want to build solid boy-girl relationship, you take the selfless love route. it starts with a foundation of friendship, getting to know and like someone, regardless of what you might get from them physically. bonding is when you start to understand and care for someone on a deeper level, learning their hopes and dreams, their fears and faith. it may involve some light hugging and kissing, based on affection, not lust. commitment is when you desire to share your lives together in a committed, long-term relationship, commonly known as marriage. at this stage sex is good and fulfilling.

wow... i think is quite cool... wahahaha... posted by bb... hmmm...

wonder if both of us taking e selfless route? are we consider that starting r/s with a friendship foundation? is our bonding there? do you have the committment yet?

wahahaha... is sth im interested to noe... =D
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